I wish, I wish (or, why are we so afraid of short haircuts?)


I love browsing pinterest mainly for 2 things: hair ideas and beautiful pictures of beautiful places.

The sad side of looking at hair ideas on there is when I start reading the captions. Each and every brave, amazing, beautiful haircut or hair colour comes with one of these captions:
– I wish I could pull this off
– I wish I was brave enough to get this
– I wish I could get this but x would kill me

I wish, I wish…

Other types of comments are a bit worse, stuff like:
– Whenever I cut my hair short I hate it and spend the next year hating myself for doing it and growing it back.

An idea? How about you don’t hate yourself for ridiculous stuff such as a haircut and, rather than spendingTimGunnMakeitwork a year crying, spend a bit of time figuring out how to style it. In the words of Tim Gunn, “Make it work!”. Just an idea, I mean this is the 21st Century where there are countless tutorials for everything online including stuff like “I hate my new pixie, how can I style it to make it better?” and stuff like that.
Having said that, if you don’t like short hair on you and decide you prefer longer cuts that’s fine, I just think it’s ridiculous to feel so miserable because of a haircut.

I understand where people are coming from, I’ve been that person! (God how much have I been that person!) So many things to consider like, is it okay to have super short hair with a fat face? “Experts” say it’s not!…  Am I gonna look like a man? I don’t wanna look like my brother’s long lost twin… What if it looks like a wild animal chew on my hair while I was taking a nap in the wilderness? It can happen… (I’ve had a badass dog – Ronnie – chew on my hair while I was asleep. I’ve seen professional work that looks like that too, I know what I’m talking about here!)

As soon as I hit the late 20s age area though I started thinking, what will happen in 10 years time when I hit the late 30s? Am I still gonna be afraid of chopping my hair off? Also, why is it so scary? It’s just hair, it grows back.

It was then when cutting my hair short was nowhere near as terrifying as being a 30 something scared of haircuts or worse, being a 30 something wishing when she was a 20 something she had done x thing with her hair!

Ha! In your face, irrational fear!

So I made it a goal to get a short haircut by the time I’m 30, I still have time 🙂 but no need to procrastinate. I made a plan to get a shorter haircut every time I went to the hairdresser. I also told my hairdresser what my plan was and told her not to let me chicken out!

First step was a short, angled bob.
Then, shorter asymmetrical bob.
Now, an asymmetrical style that starts to resemble a pixie on the short side. I’ve loved each of these haircuts and am currently enjoying every morning styling this asymmetrical hair!

Next is finally the pixie! Probably in December or January 😀
I’ll start with a longer pixie, I’m amazed I’m already there! Now that I’ve cut it I realise there was nothing to be scared of in the first place.
The “I wishes” are different now, they’re more like, I wish I had tried this years ago, by now I would have tried all the cuts I’ve always loved!

deal-with-itWhat I’m trying to say here is do whatever you want whenever you want (within reason, obviously). Waiting for the right time and wishing you were braver/taller or had a slimmer face doesn’t do you any good. If you want to rock short hair, do it. If you love it, great! Enjoy your new haircut! If you hate it, now you know you hate it and you can stop wishing and move on to other great cuts that will suit you!

If you’re too traumatised by your bad haircut, wear a hat or a wig. It really is not a big deal. Also, if you hate it, chances are nobody else thinks it’s such a big deal (or even notices how “bad” it is) as you do because we tend to get extra-selfconscious when that happens. Remember that.
On that note, if x hates it and would kill you for cutting your hair so much so that you’re holding yourself back from getting a haircut you want, I think you don’t have a hair issue in your hands, you, my friend, would be having a friendship/relationship issue. I mean, somebody doesn’t like your style? Fair enough, it happens. But it’s certainly not a reason for “murder”, definitely not something you should be freaking out about. Also, give it a thought, chances are this person is holding you back from other great things.

The same is true in life, if you don’t take risks you’ll never get anywhere so go out there and take some risks, fashion, hair or otherwise. Remember while you’re sitting nicely in your comfort zone, life is happening somewhere else 😉


“Make glorious, amazing mistakes.”

The Daily Post

In Neil Gaiman’s now famous 2012 commencement speech at the University of the Arts, he offers some excellent advice to free us from perfectionism, imploring us to simply create — to make art — no matter what. What’s wonderful about this advice is that it applies to any creative endeavour, regardless of whether your art form is writing, drawing, painting, sculpting, or découpage:

I hope that in this year to come, you make mistakes.

Because if you are making mistakes, then you are making new things, trying new things, learning, living, pushing yourself, changing yourself, changing your world. You’re doing things you’ve never done before, and more importantly, you’re Doing Something.

So that’s my wish for you, and all of us, and my wish for myself. Make New Mistakes. Make glorious, amazing mistakes. Make mistakes nobody’s ever made before. Don’t freeze, don’t stop, don’t worry that it isn’t good…

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